How many of you are independent?
Independent not only because you stay alone, earn your living, take of yourself, no. Independent in the true sense. Where you take responsibility for each action and ensure that your actions are well thought out and executed. Well, if that is the case, then congratulations you are living with an active mindset.
Active vs passive living
How many times have you blamed someone or something else for all that is wrong in your life? Well, isn’t it the easiest and most convenient thing to do? Why were you late to work? Because of traffic. Why did you not do the homework? Because relatives were at my place. Why didn’t you start your business? because I did not have enough capital.
This is a classic example of passive living. Though these excuses might calm you down and soothe your ego in the short run, in the long run, these are exactly the reasons that can allow you to give control of your life to someone else.
What we fail to accept is that most of the things in our lives- good or bad- are our fault. The sooner we realise this, the better things will be. Here’s how to cultivate an active mindset and take control of your life.
Step 1: Accepting reality
It is important that you take ownership of everything going on in your life. A passive mindset is an attitude, an assumption that life happens to you and you are not responsible for it. When you start using the language ‘ Why do these things happen to me, it is then that you get into the passive mindset.
So accept that you have been living a passive mindset.
Step 2: Learn the change
The Stoic philosopher Seneca put it best in On The Shortness Of Life:
“If you apply yourself to study you will avoid all boredom with life, you will not long for night because you are sick of daylight, you will be neither a burden to yourself nor useless to others, you will attract many to become your friends and the finest people will flock about you.”
Your mindset has nothing to do with your age or experience. The day you decide on learning and work on yourself is the day you can make the switch. Change is the only constant, and the sooner you begin, the happier you become.
Step 3: Take ownership
An active attitude means taking ownership. Own up to your mistakes, own your failures and accept that you are responsible for things you control.
Sorry, I could have planned for the traffic.
I could have taken out time to do my homework.
I was afraid t start a business, so I did not.
well, there it is. It is not that you cannot do anything, but at least try to do everything before you give up. The price of actually trying is too high, so we resort to lying.
While all this may sound weird and too philosophical to many, take the responsibility back onto yourself by switching from passive to active. It implies that you are in charge of the results. You cannot place the blame or allow someone else to receive the praise. It is important to have an active mindset because:
- Passivity is a state of being aimless.
- Activity provides a sense of purpose.
- Passivity is giving up.
- Activities are owned.